Not all men who have had a successful divorce are happy. Some loved their wife so much but there's nothing that can be done to quickly plug that hole in their heart. It's a despair having your kids away from you, and you can only see them from time to time. Living in a home not with your family is saddening for most men and dangerous fro their mental health. It's a different experience right after divorce and you can't just bring back all how beautiful the family has started. Most men who just had a divorce would suffer several issues. Post divorce advice for men is something all men after divorce need - but are often too to seek.
Feelings of Men After Divorce
It is a myth that men would feel freedom after marriage. Sometimes the allegation is true that a husband cheated his wife for a younger one, he feels remorse and regrets having done it. Often times there seems to be no way of knowing why the divorce happened leaving the man feeling even more trapped by the state of events than free of any marriage contract. Men have sensitive emotions too. As humans, they could fall into temptation without thinking of the consequences. Wives who leave their husbands will cause a great sorrow for him. Men don't want to live and be alone. It is shown in statistics that divorced men are likely to cause suicide. Who wouldn't? All his dreams are shattered and his family will be abandoning him soon now.
Managing Life After Divorce
After a great turmoil, it's just right to get out of your shelter and see the world in a different light. There are things that you don't expect will happen and you need to move on. Divorced men still have their lives and there are more to it. Remember that if they don't take a step forward, they'll only be stagnated in their condition. What has happened can't be brought back again but the important thing is the lesson learned from the experience. Think that if this didn't happen, you'll not be able to value the importance of relationships. A relationship not nurtured will easily break off. For your next relationship, you will know how to deal well with your spouse and avoid things that could damage the relationship. All these are hard but with perseverance and motivation, everything will be alright in time.
Learn From Self-Guide Books
Men usually aren't open and versatile than women. They don't just divulge their feelings to their friends and let all the pain out. This is their way of protecting their manhood. Post divorce advice for men is available in self-guide books. Book on men after divorce will help you understand the life of a man after divorce. You can find support from these books to help you come out from your pathetic self. Let these be your guide in your everyday struggle towards healing. At a very affordable price, you will feel secured and confident because of the learning you can get from the book.
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Sunday, October 30, 2011
Friday, October 28, 2011
How to get married foreigners in India
This Special Marriage Act permits marriages between persons who are not of the same community or who have different religions or nationalities. The scope of the Act includes the entire territory of India and extends to intending spouses who are both Indian nationals living abroad. The groom must be at least 21 years old, while the bride must be at least 18 years of age. Both parties should have full mental capacity and not be currently married. Parties to the marriage must provide notice of their intention to solemnize the marriage before a marriage officer in the district where at least one of the parties has resided for at least 30 days prior to the notice. Notice of the intended marriage is entered into the Marriages Notice Book, which is open for public inspection with an inspection fee. The public has the right to object to the marriage for the following 30 days. Any objections must be investigated and resolved within an additional 30 days.
Prior to the solemnization of the marriage, the parties and three witnesses must sign a declaration in front of a marriage officer, who will also sign the document. The marriage may be solemnized in any form that the parties wish to adopt as long as the solemnization occurs at the marriage officer's office or any place that the marriage officer sanctions. The marriage must include the exchange of the following statement: "I (name of self) take you (name of partner) to be my lawful (wife or husband)." After the solemnization, the marriage officer will enter the certificate in the Marriage Certificate Book. The parties and the three witnesses must sign the certificate. The entry of the certificate in the book is deemed conclusive evidence of a lawful marriage.
Any marriage in India may be registered under this Act. The parties must jointly apply for the marriage registration. After 30 days of notice to the public, the marriage officer will enter the certificate into the Marriage Certificate Book. The spouses and three witnesses must sign the certificate.
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Prior to the solemnization of the marriage, the parties and three witnesses must sign a declaration in front of a marriage officer, who will also sign the document. The marriage may be solemnized in any form that the parties wish to adopt as long as the solemnization occurs at the marriage officer's office or any place that the marriage officer sanctions. The marriage must include the exchange of the following statement: "I (name of self) take you (name of partner) to be my lawful (wife or husband)." After the solemnization, the marriage officer will enter the certificate in the Marriage Certificate Book. The parties and the three witnesses must sign the certificate. The entry of the certificate in the book is deemed conclusive evidence of a lawful marriage.
Any marriage in India may be registered under this Act. The parties must jointly apply for the marriage registration. After 30 days of notice to the public, the marriage officer will enter the certificate into the Marriage Certificate Book. The spouses and three witnesses must sign the certificate.
For enquiry:- 9962999008
email:- matrimonialsolutions@hotmail.com
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
45 % rise in divorce by mutual consent
Article from Times of India
When marriages break down and couples want to end it with as little trauma as possible, divorce by mutual consent is what many are opting for.
As such divorce cases by mutual consent have gone up in the past five years, statistics from the family court in Pune show.Of the total number of divorce cases filed every year since 2005, petitions under mutual consent constituted over 65 per cent. From 729 petitions in 2005, the number went up to 1,130 in 2010, a rise of about 45 per cent. Till this February, 100 cases were registered.
In another alarming trend, counsellors said that over 50 per cent of mutual consent divorce petitions were from couples who had not completed three years of marriage.
Lawyers dealing with such cases said that couples with irrevocable differences prefer divorce by mutual consent as it goes a long way in saving time, money and effort. Besides, it is less traumatic, they added.
The divorce can come through in six months. Advocate Sunil Kotlikar, vice-president of the Pune Bar Association, said, "Usually, a divorce can take years to come through. When it is by mutual consent, allegations and counter-allegations are withheld, finances are sorted out and custody issues of children are amicably decided."
The in-laws are not dragged into it, unlike cases where the woman has filed for a divorce citing cruelty under Section 498 (A) of the Indian Penal Code, he added.
"At the end of six months, the couple's advocate files an affidavit before the family court accompanied by the counsellor's report and the couple go their own ways. This saves a considerable amount of time, money and effort, besides being beneficial from the children's point of view," he said.
The sad part is that mutual consent divorce leaves no chance for any attempt to save the marriage, the staff at the family court said. According to a senior marriage counsellor, the rate of reconciliation between couples filing for divorce under the mutual consent clause is as little as 3-4 per cent, In other divorce cases, it is 16-18 per cent. "Cases of reconciliation are only a few as little effort is made to engage the couple in a dialogue. Moreover, the real reasons for the estrangement emerge rarely," said Kotlikar.
It happens because both have decided to separate and going through the counselling procedure to look at a possible reconciliation is only a formality. "The partners have already closed their minds to the possibility of giving their marriage a second chance," he said.
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When marriages break down and couples want to end it with as little trauma as possible, divorce by mutual consent is what many are opting for.
As such divorce cases by mutual consent have gone up in the past five years, statistics from the family court in Pune show.Of the total number of divorce cases filed every year since 2005, petitions under mutual consent constituted over 65 per cent. From 729 petitions in 2005, the number went up to 1,130 in 2010, a rise of about 45 per cent. Till this February, 100 cases were registered.
In another alarming trend, counsellors said that over 50 per cent of mutual consent divorce petitions were from couples who had not completed three years of marriage.
Lawyers dealing with such cases said that couples with irrevocable differences prefer divorce by mutual consent as it goes a long way in saving time, money and effort. Besides, it is less traumatic, they added.
The divorce can come through in six months. Advocate Sunil Kotlikar, vice-president of the Pune Bar Association, said, "Usually, a divorce can take years to come through. When it is by mutual consent, allegations and counter-allegations are withheld, finances are sorted out and custody issues of children are amicably decided."
The in-laws are not dragged into it, unlike cases where the woman has filed for a divorce citing cruelty under Section 498 (A) of the Indian Penal Code, he added.
"At the end of six months, the couple's advocate files an affidavit before the family court accompanied by the counsellor's report and the couple go their own ways. This saves a considerable amount of time, money and effort, besides being beneficial from the children's point of view," he said.
The sad part is that mutual consent divorce leaves no chance for any attempt to save the marriage, the staff at the family court said. According to a senior marriage counsellor, the rate of reconciliation between couples filing for divorce under the mutual consent clause is as little as 3-4 per cent, In other divorce cases, it is 16-18 per cent. "Cases of reconciliation are only a few as little effort is made to engage the couple in a dialogue. Moreover, the real reasons for the estrangement emerge rarely," said Kotlikar.
It happens because both have decided to separate and going through the counselling procedure to look at a possible reconciliation is only a formality. "The partners have already closed their minds to the possibility of giving their marriage a second chance," he said.
You can get Divorce support Helpline:- 9962999008
Monday, July 25, 2011
Think Before Divorce
Before moving on with what you need to know about divorce, the next few paragraphs will ask you to look before you leap if you find yourself wanting out of your marriage. Choosing to divorce might ultimately be your decision, but it should be one made in a state of calm with little doubt and few regrets.
When someone approaches me and says he or she wants a divorce, my first reaction is to say, “Are you sure?” Decisions made in haste can take on lives of their own, and before you know it, there may be no turning back to save your marriage. Deep down we all know when we are at peace with the decisions we’ve made- big and small. Sometimes we listen to our gut and sometimes we don’t.
When we make decisions and take action while our doubt mechanism is in full gear, we know we will eventually pay for it. To avoid this scenario, respect the little voice inside you, if it says “wait.” Your gut instinct is asking you to reevaluate the situation before making your decision. Before making this significant change in your life take a good look at yourself and your concept of marriage.
When you’re looking at the choice to divorce, forget all about the idea of the romantic fairy tale. It’s time to take a good look at marriage and understand what it really takes to make this type of partnership work. Depending on how realistic and honest you are when evaluating your situation, when it comes to a divorce, you may find that the grass may not always be greener on the other side. For a good dose of reality, sit down and write out a pro and con list of staying married vs. the realities of divorce and being single.
Consider the following: children, your career status and ability to make money, finances, life style changes, cost of divorce, being single again and the threat of sexually transmitted diseases once you’re back on the dating circuit. (You may be thinking, “I never want to date again, but trust me, you will.)
Consider the following:
Have you gone to marriage counseling?
Have you and your spouse taken the time to talk and isolate the real problems of the marriage?
Do you really listen to each other or just nag, complain and tune out?
How well do you compromise and try to find time for enjoying quality time together?
How productive or destructive are your methods of fighting?
Do you kiss and make up without holding grudges?
Are you teammates working toward the same goals?
Are you both willing to work on your issues together?
Writing out the answers to these questions will help guide you in making an educated, rational decision. Divorce is difficult, but it might be your best option and worth the temporary discomfort of transitioning into a new life. The process of honest evaluation will help you experience more peace and have fewer doubts regardless of your decision.
Further clarification contact: 9962999008
When someone approaches me and says he or she wants a divorce, my first reaction is to say, “Are you sure?” Decisions made in haste can take on lives of their own, and before you know it, there may be no turning back to save your marriage. Deep down we all know when we are at peace with the decisions we’ve made- big and small. Sometimes we listen to our gut and sometimes we don’t.
When we make decisions and take action while our doubt mechanism is in full gear, we know we will eventually pay for it. To avoid this scenario, respect the little voice inside you, if it says “wait.” Your gut instinct is asking you to reevaluate the situation before making your decision. Before making this significant change in your life take a good look at yourself and your concept of marriage.
When you’re looking at the choice to divorce, forget all about the idea of the romantic fairy tale. It’s time to take a good look at marriage and understand what it really takes to make this type of partnership work. Depending on how realistic and honest you are when evaluating your situation, when it comes to a divorce, you may find that the grass may not always be greener on the other side. For a good dose of reality, sit down and write out a pro and con list of staying married vs. the realities of divorce and being single.
Consider the following: children, your career status and ability to make money, finances, life style changes, cost of divorce, being single again and the threat of sexually transmitted diseases once you’re back on the dating circuit. (You may be thinking, “I never want to date again, but trust me, you will.)
Consider the following:
Have you gone to marriage counseling?
Have you and your spouse taken the time to talk and isolate the real problems of the marriage?
Do you really listen to each other or just nag, complain and tune out?
How well do you compromise and try to find time for enjoying quality time together?
How productive or destructive are your methods of fighting?
Do you kiss and make up without holding grudges?
Are you teammates working toward the same goals?
Are you both willing to work on your issues together?
Writing out the answers to these questions will help guide you in making an educated, rational decision. Divorce is difficult, but it might be your best option and worth the temporary discomfort of transitioning into a new life. The process of honest evaluation will help you experience more peace and have fewer doubts regardless of your decision.
Further clarification contact: 9962999008
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Why womens are not seeking divorce when their husbands live in Adultery?
The Hindu Marriage Act provides that any marriage solemnized, whether before or after the commencement of this Act, may, on a petition presented by either the husband or the wife, be dissolved by a decree of divorce on the ground that the other party is living in adultery.
What is Adultery?
Adultery means Sexual intercourse between a married person and a third party. Adultery is when a woman has voluntary sexual intercourse with a person other than her husband, at other places adultery is when a woman has voluntary sexual intercourse with a third person without her husband’s consent.
A divorce can be granted if it is proven that one partner in a marriage has had an affair and committed adultery, defined as having had sexual intercourse with a person of the opposite sex other than their spouse, and if the spouse finds it intolerable for the marriage to continue.
When applying for divorce on grounds of adultery, it is necessary to provide the courts with as much evidence as possible about the alleged adulterous affair, such as places and dates. If the partner who has had the affair or affairs does not contest the divorce, then it will usually be granted with little difficulty. However, if the divorce is contested, detailed evidence will be required to satisfy the courts that the affair actually occurred, and the process may be lengthy and expensive. It is not necessary to name the ‘co-respondent’ – the person with whom the adulterous affair took place – and many lawyers advise against doing so as it may cause unnecessary delay and additional expense if the co-respondent contests the petition. There is often little reason for a co-respondent to cooperate, particularly as they may be ordered to pay a portion of the court costs if a divorce is granted.
It is very difficult to produce direct evidence to prove an act of adultery. Adultery is a matrimonial offence as well as a criminal offence. The requirement of proof in a criminal case is stricter than the requirement in a matrimonial case. In the former case the act is to be proved beyond reasonable doubt, whereas in the latter the evidence is based on the inferences and possibilities.
Thus the offence of adultery may be proved by:
1. Circumstantial evidence
2. By evidence as to non-access and birth of a child
3. By evidence of visits to brothels
4. By contracting venereal diseases
5. Confession and admission to parties; and
6. Preponderance of probability
Hence in proving the adulterous act of the spouse many have not suggested to file divorce on the basis of adultery.
The author Mr.Satish Kumar can be contacted at divorceadvocate@aol.in
What is Adultery?
Adultery means Sexual intercourse between a married person and a third party. Adultery is when a woman has voluntary sexual intercourse with a person other than her husband, at other places adultery is when a woman has voluntary sexual intercourse with a third person without her husband’s consent.
A divorce can be granted if it is proven that one partner in a marriage has had an affair and committed adultery, defined as having had sexual intercourse with a person of the opposite sex other than their spouse, and if the spouse finds it intolerable for the marriage to continue.
When applying for divorce on grounds of adultery, it is necessary to provide the courts with as much evidence as possible about the alleged adulterous affair, such as places and dates. If the partner who has had the affair or affairs does not contest the divorce, then it will usually be granted with little difficulty. However, if the divorce is contested, detailed evidence will be required to satisfy the courts that the affair actually occurred, and the process may be lengthy and expensive. It is not necessary to name the ‘co-respondent’ – the person with whom the adulterous affair took place – and many lawyers advise against doing so as it may cause unnecessary delay and additional expense if the co-respondent contests the petition. There is often little reason for a co-respondent to cooperate, particularly as they may be ordered to pay a portion of the court costs if a divorce is granted.
It is very difficult to produce direct evidence to prove an act of adultery. Adultery is a matrimonial offence as well as a criminal offence. The requirement of proof in a criminal case is stricter than the requirement in a matrimonial case. In the former case the act is to be proved beyond reasonable doubt, whereas in the latter the evidence is based on the inferences and possibilities.
Thus the offence of adultery may be proved by:
1. Circumstantial evidence
2. By evidence as to non-access and birth of a child
3. By evidence of visits to brothels
4. By contracting venereal diseases
5. Confession and admission to parties; and
6. Preponderance of probability
Hence in proving the adulterous act of the spouse many have not suggested to file divorce on the basis of adultery.
The author Mr.Satish Kumar can be contacted at divorceadvocate@aol.in
Friday, July 22, 2011
Social network now becames evidence in Child custody
Child custody battles can get contentious, but one couple took that to an extreme recently. Amid the messy Child Custody dispute, a woman apparently created a fake Facebook account to catch her ex-husband in a lie. It worked at first, but the tables were later turned.
The 29-year-old woman reportedly created a Facebook account for a fake 17-year-old girl with the phony name "Jessica Studebaker" and then friended her ex-spouse. She apparently initiated an online conversation with him with the hope of producing evidence that he is an unfit father.
The social networking site now becomes a evidence making tool for the unfair couples in divorce cases.
By Team Daniel & Daniel
Helpline:- 9962999008.
The 29-year-old woman reportedly created a Facebook account for a fake 17-year-old girl with the phony name "Jessica Studebaker" and then friended her ex-spouse. She apparently initiated an online conversation with him with the hope of producing evidence that he is an unfit father.
The social networking site now becomes a evidence making tool for the unfair couples in divorce cases.
By Team Daniel & Daniel
Helpline:- 9962999008.
Older men still play games. Beware of internet dating.
Can I just begin by saying that I love men, and I would not tar all men with the same brush, but I might beat most of the them with the same stick.
My comments for the purpose of this article are aimed at older women.
Ladies, don’t you think that men, at the mature and life experienced age of their early fifties, would have abandoned the idea of talking vebal…. vebal what? yes verbal that!
Well alas, it may not be so, still pours forth.
I read in the paper recently, an article about separation and relationships and a very interesting statement was made, ‘men give love for sex, women give sex for love’.
And they are still doing it, years later, when they should know better.
Let take a loose example, a lady in her late forties, is separated/divorced. She is partly or wholly through the mayhem that ensues, she has become lonely for companionship and attention, and decides the time is right to go back into the world of dating. But where does she go? All her friends are married or attached and the only interest she receives is from pat the postman, who is short and giddy, and frankly does nothing for her.
So she turns to the world of internet dating. It should come with ‘buyer beware’ stamped all over it!
Wouldnt you think that the older men are now matured and looking for companionship too. Yes, yes, before you shout at me, all the men out there, we know YOU are different
Well the simple answer is no, there are still older men out there, who havent a notion in hell of settling down, committing or being Mr Right.
Loads of Mr Wrongs out there im afraid.
And just as the simple things in life are free, and simple uncomplicated advice can be best, this is mine.
Beware the man that jumps, or should I say appears to jump in too soon. Declaring undying love, coming out with the ‘old one’, ‘I will always bthere for you’, and having the audacity to discuss future trips to Italy. ALL ON THE FIRST DATE.
Run away, or if you are mad about him, at the very least, don’t go along with it. Tell him you are flattered but he must slow down and its way too soon to talk like that. Even if your heart is leapfrogging all over your body, and your hormones have regressed to the mental age of 17, shut up and smile a little condescendingly and nod.
Say nothing, zip it, dont reciprocate, and whatever you do, DON’T go to bed.
If you do, chances are the very next day, he will tell you how ‘lovely you are’, but he has a lot on at the moment, and he doesnt see the relationship going anywhere.
Yes, it can happen to you.
Sorry, just careful, and yes i’m afraid, you still have to play stupid games, that you long to leave behind with your teenage years.
Written by : Lynnmargaet
Contact Divorce Advocate at email: divorceadvocate@aol.in
Ph:- 9962999008
My comments for the purpose of this article are aimed at older women.
Ladies, don’t you think that men, at the mature and life experienced age of their early fifties, would have abandoned the idea of talking vebal…. vebal what? yes verbal that!
Well alas, it may not be so, still pours forth.
I read in the paper recently, an article about separation and relationships and a very interesting statement was made, ‘men give love for sex, women give sex for love’.
And they are still doing it, years later, when they should know better.
Let take a loose example, a lady in her late forties, is separated/divorced. She is partly or wholly through the mayhem that ensues, she has become lonely for companionship and attention, and decides the time is right to go back into the world of dating. But where does she go? All her friends are married or attached and the only interest she receives is from pat the postman, who is short and giddy, and frankly does nothing for her.
So she turns to the world of internet dating. It should come with ‘buyer beware’ stamped all over it!
Wouldnt you think that the older men are now matured and looking for companionship too. Yes, yes, before you shout at me, all the men out there, we know YOU are different
Well the simple answer is no, there are still older men out there, who havent a notion in hell of settling down, committing or being Mr Right.
Loads of Mr Wrongs out there im afraid.
And just as the simple things in life are free, and simple uncomplicated advice can be best, this is mine.
Beware the man that jumps, or should I say appears to jump in too soon. Declaring undying love, coming out with the ‘old one’, ‘I will always bthere for you’, and having the audacity to discuss future trips to Italy. ALL ON THE FIRST DATE.
Run away, or if you are mad about him, at the very least, don’t go along with it. Tell him you are flattered but he must slow down and its way too soon to talk like that. Even if your heart is leapfrogging all over your body, and your hormones have regressed to the mental age of 17, shut up and smile a little condescendingly and nod.
Say nothing, zip it, dont reciprocate, and whatever you do, DON’T go to bed.
If you do, chances are the very next day, he will tell you how ‘lovely you are’, but he has a lot on at the moment, and he doesnt see the relationship going anywhere.
Yes, it can happen to you.
Sorry, just careful, and yes i’m afraid, you still have to play stupid games, that you long to leave behind with your teenage years.
Written by : Lynnmargaet
Contact Divorce Advocate at email: divorceadvocate@aol.in
Ph:- 9962999008
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